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The J Word

2 Feb

We are almost done with probation.  I say “we” because of that fact that although Brett is the Firefighter, I am the Woman who must endure his stress, study time, and crazy schedule.  Although February 17th will not bring an end to bumps and hiccups, it will bring the certainty of a long career and dream long sought after. The past two weeks have brought additional shifts, study groups, manipulative tests, and many fire practical exams.   Translation: many days and hours without my man and lots of long hours with three kids five and under.  I’m not looking for a pat on the back here, many women endure the life of a Fire Wife, an Army Wife, as a Single Parent.  But, it is the reason I have been MIA.

Ultimately, being a wife and a mother are two of my primary roles so I know I have made the best choice prioritizing those jobs above writing.

Throughout this year of probation, I have been forced to look at each day as a gift, a blank canvas full of possibility.  And, in my life, each day includes three priorities:

(a) My relationship with Jesus; spending time with My Savior; gaining a fresh perspective; Daily Bread; sitting at the feel of Jesus
(b) Being a Wife; making my house a home for the man I love, the man who works  hard to provide for our family, in words and actions taking the time to love him more each day
(c) Being a Mom; allowing time for interruptions, being available, playing, listening, being patient, creating, teaching, loving

These priorities are my Purpose.  These priorities have  caused me to slow down, live intentionally, create, reflect, breathe, and ENJOY myself.

I love to write and I truly believe I have something to say.  But, I lack focus and direction.  My priorities offer a clear mission and the purpose of Mighty Sweet Mama, “to be a better woman, wife and mama,” is reflective of that mission.  But, what I’ve been missing is the number one factor: “Jesus.”

Jesus makes me a better Woman, Wife ,and Mother.  Period.

And…let it be known…My voice and thoughts about Jesus may be offensive to some.  Although I aim for propriety, I am 100% comfortable with the fact that the Lord gave me a heart for those who do not seek Him, which means I might offend of a couple of y’all on this journey.  Please forgive me.

That being said, there are a couple of things y’all should know about my relationship with Jesus…

Gladys Hardy Quote

Gladys Hardy Quote

Jesus Loves Me

Enjoy YOurself



12 Nov

The Golden Gate Bridge at Sunset

We are back!  I am happy to say that after seven years of marriage, three kids, and two careers, The Normans had a family vacation.

There are plenty of people who can pack up and go wherever, whenever they please.  We are not those people!  Our trip took planning, budgeting, and tons of prayer.  After all, we were driving with three kids to San Francisco.  Our initial intent was to travel north for my cousin’s wedding; a simple, quick turnaround for me and the Mr.  But, my aunt offered to line up a babysitter if we wanted to bring the kids. The opportunity presented itself and we went with it!

My husband and I are pretty laid back, so when we missed the exit for the 5 and ended up on the 99, we didn’t stress too much.  We soon learned the detour would only take us 20 miles off track so there was no need to freak out or turn around.  Our sidestep led to lunch at Bravo Cheese Farm; a quaint little stop laden with fabulous Americana, a three-story treehouse, and sweet treats!   After several stops to let the kids ride their scooters, we made it to Pleasanton. The town is adorable.  We played Bocce ball at Campo di Bocce (I want one in SoCal!!!), played in the pool at the hotel, and then enjoyed the wedding at Ruby Hills Golf Club.  It was truly gorgeous.  After a final brunch with extended family, we made our way to the city.

Have you ever experienced a moment when time seems to stand still?  Without rush or anxiety, much is accomplished…that was what we experienced!

We found our way to the hotel and walked a block to Fisherman’s Wharf.  Bread Bowls at Boudins, Ice Cream on Pier 39, rides on the San Francisco Carousel, and Sea Lion viewing.  Exhausted, our kids fell asleep early.  Brett and I ordered an artisan pizza, which we toasted with a couple of beers on the bed as the kids slept.  The following day we enjoyed breakfast, a cable car ride, Chinatown, the park in St. Mary’s Square, and grilled cheese sandwiches at Cowgirl Creamery in the Embarcadero.  The afternoon brought a ride over the Golden Gate Bridge, a stroll through Mill Valley (where I excitedly visited Tyler Florence), and dinner and dessert in Ghirardelli Square.  Do we sound nuts?  Because, in retrospect, I think we sound absurd!

I cannot tell you enough how amazing the time was, how enjoyable our experiences were, how elated the kids were to experience different sites and treats.  Brett and I will treasure their faces and the first family vacation forever!  And, amazingly, we are back refreshed.  Maybe not so much physically as we are emotionally.  The experience refreshed our souls, minds, and spirits, which I believe are equally if not more important than our bodies!

Family + Food + Friends + Football = Fall

3 Nov
Chocolate chip muffins baking in an oven

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One of our favorite holiday eats comes from Trader Joe’s.  Available one time per year, the Pumpkin Muffin mix and the Pumpkin Pancake and Waffle mix add to the season’s ambiance.  My kiddos love to climb up to the counter, add small hands, and eat scattered chocolate chips!  It takes a little extra time and it’s definitely messier, but I’m banking on the fact that I’m creating memories to last a lifetime.  Although the recipe doesn’t call for chocolate chips, we have found that adding 3/4 cup to the muffins and scattering a couple onto each pancake makes for good eats!

Baking always gives me a little smile, which is why I was so excited to discover this list about Fall Treats.

Thank you for the list  Lauren, http://thelittlethingswedo.blogspot.com/ and to Roxanne at  http://roxannima.com/ for bringing it to my attention.

1. Nothing says fall like … cinnamon, chicken pot pies, Monday Night Football, leaves

2. My favorite autumnal tradition is … Crisp, cold morning beach walks; the CrapFair – first Sunday in November

3. My favorite fall treat is …  Pumpkin Muffins from Trader Joe’s with Chocolate Chips added and the Pumpkin Spiced Latte from Starbucks (One time per year!)

4. Fall makes me think of … Crisp mornings, blustery days, apple picking in Julian, football season

5. Autumn free form word association … go! coats, blustery, Thanksgiving, scarves, apples, harvest, pumpkins

6. My go-to outfit in the fall is … jeans, sweatshirt / sweater, scarf, and although I should probably wear some shoes, I will forever be flopping around in my Rainbow Sandals

7. My favorite fall holiday is … Thanksgiving is absolutely my favorite holiday of the year with the Fourth of July running a  close second.  Giving thanks, spending time with family, running the Turkey Trot, enjoying delicious home baked goods, and relaxing. Family, Friends, Food, and Football.  Is there anything better?

Happy Thanksgiving!

Inspiration on a Sunday Evening

30 Oct

The Mr.’s at the station.  I tucked the kids in bed and sat down to read.  You’d think after a long day I would welcome the peace and quiet but my mind was racing. All I can think about are the things I need to get ready for the week.  Tomorrow is Halloween.  We are hosting and I have loose ends to tie up.  Friday we leave for San Francisco.  I need to make a packing list and get the laundry underway.  In between tomorrow and our departure are the normal school, grocery shopping. cleaning, practice, etc…Brett works two of those days so I’d better figure out quick what I need to get accomplished while he is home.

I love having a Firefighter husband – don’t get me wrong.  I am blessed.  But, I have had to take my multitasking,  plan ahead scheduling to a whole new level.  Not in a control freak manner – just an escalated awareness.  I say that to make myself feel better.  Those of you who are fire wives I’m sure you understand.  So, rather than sit and read, I came back to play around on the computer.  Wouldn’t you know it – I found a quote on serving – AGAIN!

Lord, talk to me.  I have met this topic at every turn.  I pray my heart would be soft.  Shape me and mold me into a woman, wife, and mother who serves others, loving them as you do.  Lord, I pray my eyes would be open to see opportunities to serve others.  I pray I would not be so caught up in my schedule that I miss opportunities to bless others.  Interrupt me Lord; may I be available.  Thank you for chasing after me.

So, I went nuts on http://www.thinkexist.com/and just kept perusing.  I hope these thoughts bless you as they did me!

  • God told us, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” So first I am to love myself rightly, and then to love my neighbor like that. But how can I love myself unless I accept myself as God has made me?  –  Mother Theresa
  • Love the Lord your God with all your heart and soul and mind and love your neighbor as yourself.Jesus of Nazareth
  • Life’s most urgent question is: What are you doing for others? – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • Only a life lived for others is worth living. – Albert Einstein
  • Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. – Leo Buscaglia
  • Love begins by taking care of the closest ones – the ones at home. – Mother Theresa
  • Smile at each other. Smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other – it doesn’t matter who it is – and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other.  – Mother Theresa
  • So long as we love we serve; So long as we are loved by others, I would almost say that we are indispensable; And no one is useless while they have a friend.  – Robert Louis Stevenson
  • I hate discussions of feminism that end up with who does the dishes … at the end, there are always the damned dishes. – Marilyn French, The Women’s Room
  • Everybody can be great. Because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and your verb agree to serve…. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • It is not my aching back that prevents me from helping my neighbor any more than my choleric temperament. It’s my don’t-wanna-do-it attitude that does it. – Emily Carder
  • True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever the cost. – Arthur Ashe

Letting the Mr. off the Hook

28 Oct
The chore list

Image by demandaj via Flickr

Open bill.  Pay bill.  File Bill.  Shred bill.  It seems simple enough, which is why I don’t understand how bills get paid and yet the “to be paid” stack on our desk continues to grow.

Laundry hamper = big.  Clothing item = small.  Husband = good at Basketball.  How do clothes land on the perimeter of the hamper but not in the hamper?

Unwind air compressor hose.  Inflate tire.  Recoil the air compressor hose.  Such a small task, I can’t imagine how it ended up strewn across the garage floor – again.

I clench my teeth, tighten my fists, and walk pointedly down the hall way to ask him how hard it is to shred the bills, put the laundry in the hamper, and wind up the damn compressor hose, when I see the kids rough housing with their dad, having a blast…when I find my husband enjoying a rare conversation with his dad…when my husband comes up behind me and whispers in my ear.  The truth is, there are a million things requiring attention.  Whether or not I like to admit it, my little requests add up to a mighty long list.  So what does it really matter if I take two seconds to file the paid bills, throw the clothes in the hamper, or wind up the darn air compressor cord?

Yes; if I remind him he will do it.  Yes.  He will take time away from playing, chatting, and loving on me.  And, in reality, what is the greater good.  I have an opportunity to take something off his plate, avoid confrontation, and make myself feel better that the task is complete.  Ultimately, at the end of the day, isn’t that what I am going for anyway?