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Don’t Should All Over Yourself

18 Feb


This week I had the awesome privilege of catching up with a former co-worker.  During our conversation, she expressed a desire to stay home with her children and an overwhelming sense of discouragement, convinced that full-time employment prevented her from being the mom she longed to be.

I understand.  Up until Baby #3 I worked full-time.

I understand having to rely on others for help, the pressures of finding an amazing (affordable + trustworthy) nanny, and a full-day, loving preschool.  I understand the guilt that accompanies a sunrise drop off and a sun set pick up.  And, in the same breath, I realize how fortunate we are that I can stay home with the kiddos.

It is a blessing.

I love it

…don’t get me wrong.

But, to be honest, when I was working outside of the home, I envisioned “stay-at-home life” as days filled with friends and their kids, manicures and pedicures, flowers, rainbows and such.  Somehow the ideas of constant entertainment, teaching and rearing, sibling rivalry, laundry, chores, and days filled with adolescent interaction were not as exhausting as they most definitely are!

I used to feel guilty for leaving my child.  Now, I feel guilty for wanting to leave.

It’s important to remember that leaving and staying are two very drastic ends of a spectrum.  As mothers, we need a sense of balance!  Day in and day out I have to remind myself that I am a Woman, I am a Wife, and I am a Mama.  Each of these roles requires nurturing and respect.

Each day I must deliberately ask myself:

How am I appreciating myself as a woman?  Am I taking care of my body (emotionally, spiritually, physically)?  Am I exercising? Eating right?  Cultivating relationships?

Am I  a good wife?  Am I meeting my husband’s needs?  Physically?  Emotionally?  Dutifully (Yes, I said that!)?  Is my man confident he is valued, respected, loved, and appreciated?

How am I doing as a Mama?  Do my kids wake up every morning confident they are loved?  Do my kids crawl into bed each night assured they are special, irreplaceable, treasured?  Do I respect their personalities, encourage their strengths, and challenge their weaknesses?

Life is overwhelming.

On any given day I am happy to self talk about all the things I should have done better; about all the things I should not have done; about all the ways I should have reacted.


I cannot should all over myself!  Don’t should all over yourself!

Take each day hour by hour.  Some hours are better than others!  Cover yourself with grace.  YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING JOB!!! And, if you royally suck one hour, make the next hour twice as good.

Pick yourself up and move on.

Ultimately, we need to support, love, and encourage one another towards greatness.

What a privilege it is to work both inside and outside the home.  One works to provide shelter and one works to cultivate it, both work out of love for those they love.

Enjoy Yourself.


Pinterest: Creating a full circle

9 Jan

I found a treat and followed the trail. Where did it lead? Full Circle; right back to my starting point.  Allow me to explain.

A couple of weeks back, I discovered the Blog: Nesting Place; a charming little nook where Nester Smith highlights  fabulous finds, perfect pieces, and inspirational insight. On this particular day, she wrote a great article about Pinterest and Blogging. I found the article fascinating. You may too. Check it out!

Pinterest and Blogging: The Good the Bad and the Huh

Pinterest and Blogging: The Good the Bad and the Huh

As I finished the article, I perused Nester’s site. I loved the colors. I loved the simple navigation. I loved her topics. I loved her voice. And I thought to myself,  I wonder if she would ever answer simple questions about blogging. I wonder how she got started? I wonder if she would share some bits of wisdom for a new blogger?

Hold that thought…

After I read the article I hopped over to one of my new favorite sites, Eighteen 25. These girls always feature fabulous subway art and I thought I would take a gander. On this particular day I discovered a giveaway for a Silhouette Cameo. Awesome!  And so, I entered the giveaway. I mean really, who wouldn’t? In fact the girls at Eighteen 25 shared a list of bloggers who were also participating in the Silhouette Cameo giveaway.

“Well, I really should take a quick peek,” I thought to myself…and so off I went.

Right off the bat I noticed  the other sites shared  creative content, similar to that of Eighteen 25.  Crafts.  Colors.  Beautiful Design.  Creativity.  What a treat!  At my finger tips, in a single consolidated list, were 17 amazing blog finds!

For the sake of bringing my story full circle in a single Blog Post, please allow me to share my  favorite sites:

1) Brown Paper Packages.  Shall I count thy ways to obsess, or would you like to just check it out for yourself?

Brown Paper Packages Calendar Blocks

Brown Paper Packages Calendar Blocks

2) The Idea Room.  A great site written by a mother of five.  She has no shortage of family fun, craft ideas, and organization.  (Side note, she also “hearts” Family Volley, which is a link I followed to find Heather.  Please see previous post for a little blip about this amazing Mama!!!)

The Idea Room Family Theme and Motto

The Idea Room Family Theme and Motto

3) Tatertots and Jello  She’s crafty, thrifty, and oh so inspiring.  Love her tutorials!  (I promise this will all tie together!)

Tatertots and Jello Lampshade Tutorial

Tatertots and Jello Lampshade Tutorial

So, as I was checking out Tatertots and Jello, I happened to come across an awesome little blip about a Growing my Blog.  (Granted these dates are about a week old now, so don’t hesitate to click the “view older posts” button!)  The content is awesome!  For someone new to the blogging world, I found the posts informative, insightful, and inspirational.  Take a peek!!!

Growing Your Blog

Growing Your Blog

Wait!  Beep Beep, back up!  Did you see?  Did you catch my full circle?  Brought to you by…Nesting Place! (and Thrifty Decor Chick, Tatertots and Jello, Miss Mustard Seed, and Centsational Girl.)

Nesting Place!  She shares wisdom and then some!  And while the highlight of my day was reading the post by Nesting Place,  a close second was the discovery of the other Bloggers in this five-part series.  I am soaking up  the light of their ideas, creativity, and guidance!

That’s a whole lot of fun exploration in one post.  And to think, my venture began with one simple Pinterest click.  It opens new doors I tell ya…fabulous new doors.

Grab a glass of wine or a cup of tea and Enjoy Yourself!


Family + Food + Friends + Football = Fall

3 Nov
Chocolate chip muffins baking in an oven

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One of our favorite holiday eats comes from Trader Joe’s.  Available one time per year, the Pumpkin Muffin mix and the Pumpkin Pancake and Waffle mix add to the season’s ambiance.  My kiddos love to climb up to the counter, add small hands, and eat scattered chocolate chips!  It takes a little extra time and it’s definitely messier, but I’m banking on the fact that I’m creating memories to last a lifetime.  Although the recipe doesn’t call for chocolate chips, we have found that adding 3/4 cup to the muffins and scattering a couple onto each pancake makes for good eats!

Baking always gives me a little smile, which is why I was so excited to discover this list about Fall Treats.

Thank you for the list  Lauren, http://thelittlethingswedo.blogspot.com/ and to Roxanne at  http://roxannima.com/ for bringing it to my attention.

1. Nothing says fall like … cinnamon, chicken pot pies, Monday Night Football, leaves

2. My favorite autumnal tradition is … Crisp, cold morning beach walks; the CrapFair – first Sunday in November

3. My favorite fall treat is …  Pumpkin Muffins from Trader Joe’s with Chocolate Chips added and the Pumpkin Spiced Latte from Starbucks (One time per year!)

4. Fall makes me think of … Crisp mornings, blustery days, apple picking in Julian, football season

5. Autumn free form word association … go! coats, blustery, Thanksgiving, scarves, apples, harvest, pumpkins

6. My go-to outfit in the fall is … jeans, sweatshirt / sweater, scarf, and although I should probably wear some shoes, I will forever be flopping around in my Rainbow Sandals

7. My favorite fall holiday is … Thanksgiving is absolutely my favorite holiday of the year with the Fourth of July running a  close second.  Giving thanks, spending time with family, running the Turkey Trot, enjoying delicious home baked goods, and relaxing. Family, Friends, Food, and Football.  Is there anything better?

Happy Thanksgiving!

Grand Company

18 Oct
The reality of lingerie, as opposed to the fan...

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I truly believe we are all amazing.  Many times we get bogged down with the pressures of being women, wives, and mamas.  It’s a pity we aren’t more honest about our insecurities because I think we would feel better knowing we aren’t on a journey flying solo.   While I appreciate those perfect mamas who are able to look spectacular, juggle their household duties, execute a career, calmly nurture their children, and round out a day with a Victoria’s Secret Strip tease for their husband, I would much rather swap stories with the other women.    The amazing women who realize they are works in progress.  The women who can share their struggles, laugh at their mistakes, and encourage me to look beyond the challenges of today.   So feel better all you mighty, sweet mamas you are not alone in your foibles.  You are in grand company!